【摘要】：威廉希尔app 整理了你是否曾经感觉自己的感情曾经遭受沮丧，紧张，距离或其他负面情绪的困扰?你会经营感情吗?警惕6个习惯不要让它毁了你的爱情，请看具体内容。
1. Be critical.
太严苛。
Even "constructive" criticism can make your partner defensive and reduce the feeling of safety in a relationship. Being harsh and judgmental when angry can trigger a "flight or fight response."
哪怕是“建设性”的批评也会让你的伴侣产生抵触情绪，并降低二人关系之间的安全感。过于严厉和主观，会让愤怒引发一场“战斗或战斗反应”。
2. Insist your partner be exactly the same as you.
坚持让你的伴侣和你一模一样。
"Absolute compatibility" is an express route to a dull relationship. If you insist your partner have the same feelings and perceptions as you do, it can lead to despair and misery.
“绝对的一致”很快就会让两人的关系变得乏味。如果你坚持让你的伴侣拥有和你一样的感觉和认识，这会导致绝望和悲剧。
3. Flee from intimacy.
拒绝亲密。
If you habitually avoid being physically or emotionally close with your partner through escaping into work, hobbies, television, or other activities, you risk creating a divide between you and your partner that may become impossible to breach.
如果你习惯性地避免和你的伴侣进行身体或情感上的亲密接触，而选择在工作、爱好、电视或其他活动中去逃避，你可能正在你和伴侣之间制造隔阂，而且这种隔阂可能会难以消除。
4. Play the blame game.
相互指责。
Using "you" language when upset will make your partner put up their defenses. When your goal is to communicate in a way that fosters intimacy, use statements that begin with "I feel" instead.
在感觉糟糕的时候用“你”这种表达会让你的伴侣产生抵触情绪。当你的目标是用一种能培养亲密感的方式进行沟通，换用“我感觉……”作为开头试试。
5. Bargain.
做交易。
Both "giving conditionally and receiving cautiously" erode relationships. He warns against doing something for a partner only when you want something in exchange.
“有条件的给予和谨慎的接受”都会毁掉一段感情。Hendrix警告的是那些为伴侣做某件事只是为了交换另一件事的人。
6. Be casual about romance.
对于浪漫过于随意。
No relationship can be spontaneously joyful forever. Once the initial excitement of a new romance wears off, some couples think their relationship is over and give up trying. They risk missing out on experiencing a deeper kind of love.
没有感情可以永远自然地保持快乐。一旦一段新感情最初的激动消退，一些情侣就认为他们的关系已经结束了，而且放弃继续尝试。他们可能会错过经历一段更深层的爱。